Conflict Doesn't Need to End in Tears

When you embody the Sabrosura, you gain more emotional space to respond rather than react, improving all your relationships.

Have you ever snapped at your kids or partner… then spent all night regretting it?

Or hit back verbally at someone in immediate defense, then wished you could turn back time?

With today’s busy lifestyle, we run around so fast and we’re so hooked into our smartphones, we have no emotional capacity left to respond more thoughtfully. We’re so busy trying to keep up, that what we value most - our relationships - is the first thing to suffer.

One of my clients had a powerful experience of how this can totally shift, after her first day at a weekend workshop I ran.

It was purposefully set up so that each person went home at night, then returned the next day. This meant they had interaction with their real-life so that they could feel the difference it made after they embodied the somatic elements.

On the first day, we embodied in particular the Sabrosura. My client then went back home to her two young kids and her husband and the next day, I asked her how it went and what she noticed from doing this work.

She shared how when she got home, her husband was really on edge and angry.

Her two young kids were crying and screaming and he was so upset, as soon as she arrived, he shouted: “you left me the whole day with them alone.” - she said that normally she would scream straight back and shout at him for not caring about her finally doing something for herself. Then they would have a massive fight. Normally they would have spent two hours fighting, then gone to bed angry and not talking to each other.

This time it was different.

Because of the work we did, she responded to his anger by touching his face with a gentle and loving caress full of Sabrosura. Then instead of shouting, she softly said “It's okay baby, I'm here now. Let me take care of it." Then, she went over to the kids and touched them with the magical Sabrosura energy too. She was able to soothe and hold them, quickly calming them down.

She had more emotional space for them from the deep internal work we did. She said she couldn’t believe it - it was unreal how she shifted the whole situation around in minutes.

She used the Sabrosura to tap into becoming so soft and so feminine that she contained and calmed everything down.

She used love to soften the situation, instead of defense to fight it back.

The sabrosura is extremely important for our happiness and our relationships, first with ourselves, but then also with our families, communities, and at work.

When we tap into the Sabrosura, we can soften enough to defuse conflict and transform it to a whole other, richer place.

Instead of meeting fire with fire, we can remain intentional and lead through softness that flows like water and calms it down...